Abusive

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" Living in a world of abuse "

There are thousands of cases of abuse reported annually. Many of these cases can never be solved because of the fear of retaliation. In the beginning life seems so right and everything is going smoothly when out of the blue sky pops this thing called abuse. Many people are stunned when they read about someone they know personally because they cannot believe their friends or family members are capable of such abusive behavior. What you are about to witness in this paper is the reality of abusive behavior and the affects during and after separation from the abuser. This is not a fiction and the person that it talks about is a real person still in recovery after many years of abuse and the fear that still remains deeply embedded with in the heart and soul that keeps reminding her of the abusive behavior.

My name is _______________. I was living in A World of abuse. This is my story. I can talk about it even though its still very painful at times. I was married to a man that i was deeply in love with for many years. He was my everything and I thought I was his everything.Well, one day, all this changed at the twinkling of an eye. I never expected this nor did I deserve this treatment after being loyal and devoted to my husband. Well, what i got in return for my affections was a man that would beat me just because he could and he would always remind me that he could and would whenever he felt that i needed to be punished. I tried to tell my family about this and they would always ask me, " well what did you do wrong to make him hit you? " Wow, I never said he hit me, I said he beat the mess out of me and no one deserves to be beaten like this. Look at my face, my eyes all swollen, my back has marks from him whipping me with an ironing cord and you all asking me, what did I do wrong ? Well, the only wrong thing i really…...

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