Marriage: a Defining Relationship

In: English and Literature

Submitted By shaylondon
Words 2352
Pages 10
Marriage: A Defining Relationship

Marriage, what is it? What does it entail? Are there different kinds of marriage institutions? There are numerous differences of what people in society think makes a marriage. Marriage between a man and a woman; between a man and multiple women; between two women or two men. Which one is correct? Does one have more positive aspects to it and society than the others? There is a growing controversy as to what should be allowed in society by law, for a marriage. Thousands of people believe that marriage is only between a man and a woman, and on the other side, thousands of people believe that same-sex marriage should be legal and provide all the rights as one man and one woman marriages. In my paper I will discuss the differences in the types of marriage, and what I believe to be the only correct and proper way to have a marriage; between one man and one woman. Children need to be brought into this world with a father and mother that love them, and that honor each other and their marriage. “Research findings suggest the value of healthy marriages for child well-being, for adult social and emotional health, and for economic and societal stability.” (Brotherson and Duncan).
Marriage between one man and one woman has been around since the beginning of time. According to the Holy Bible, Christians believe that God married Adam and Eve, the first man and woman on the Earth, in the Garden of Eden, and commanded them to “multiply and replenish the earth.” How then can one say that it is ok for same-sex marriages to be allowed? President Hugh B. Brown, First Counselor in the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints said, “It is plain that God intended that man and woman should become one. By personally officiating at this first wedding, He sanctified the institution of marriage. It is a normal, healthful, and…...

Similar Documents

Family and Marriage

...Basics in Social Science “Family and Marriage”– What is Family? Family is considered to be one of the oldest institutions of the society. Sociologists have traditionally viewed the family as a social group whose members are related by ancestry, marriage, or adoption and live together, cooperate economically, and care for the young. (Murdock, 1949) ❖ When we think of a family, we picture it as a more or less durable association of husband and wife with or without children or of a man or woman alone with children. (“Marriage and the Family”-Ogburn & Nimcoff). ❖ The family is a group defined by a sex relationship sufficiently precise and enduring to provide for the procreation and upbringing of children. (“Society: Its Structure and change”-MacIver & Page) ❖ The family represents the unit of social order. Within it people are trained for larger social life. Not only are they schooled in the art of producing wealth and trained in right of property, but is in the home that the beginning of all forms of culture appear. (“Out line of sociology”-Gillin & Blackmer) ❖ “A group of people who love and care for each other”-(Seligmann, 1990). American people picked the legalistic definition for “family” who thinks, ‘a group of people who related by blood, marriage and or adoption’ What are the functions of a family in earlier societies? Family functions vary widely. In most traditional societies, pre-industrial societies, the family......

Words: 2501 - Pages: 11


...1.     Describe the impact of Tanya’s socialization on her marriage. Tonya’s up bring was complicated she grew up watching her mother get beat by her Father so that played and impact on her socialization on her marriage. Also she is around very negative people while being married to James. Of course misery loves company, so they all plant seeds of evil thoughts about men , all while treating the men like dogs Before she was with James she was in an abusive relationship so her trust factor, and letting men in was off. 2.     Describe the divorce scenario in the movie by explaining the causes of Tanya’s and James’ breakup. James always tried to be a good man to Tonya but she could not accept his kindness without thinking that there was evil behind it. Tonya nagged James about the things he was doing right and that are what caused James to crack and breakup with her. Tonya was an angry black female throughout the relationship. Starting unnecessary arguments and calling James stupid . . 3.     Interracial dating was clearly illustrated in the film.  How do you feel about the comments that were made in the movie concerning interracial dating?   The comments made in the movie were topically comments about interracial dating but I feel like people should have chosen to date who they want. No matter the skin color , religion, or family background if you’re in love and yall have the same mutual feelings and know yall are meant to be together than what is the color of your skin...

Words: 1034 - Pages: 5


...consumers and capitalism drives our economy. Everything about our society has changed. Even for some, the definition of marriage, a covenant before God between one man and one woman, is also being challenged by gay rights activists. As man has evolved in his practice of Christianity, no longer being bound by the Mosaic law, has God changed his purpose for marriage? We know him to be, according to Psalm 102:27, a spiritual being who will never change or end. As God never changes neither does his definition of marriage. I will prove that the sanctity of marriage should be upheld as the standard of Christianity between one man and one woman. Marriage is a covenant before God. It is consummated by sexual intercourse between the man and the woman. Andreas Köstenberger, author of God, Marriage, and Family, advises on five marital concepts to which all Godly relationships must commit. First, marriage is permanent. Divorce is not an option except in certain circumstances advised by Jesus in Matthew 19:9 Those seeking to marry should seek out wise counsel. Second, marriage is sacred before God and he honors it because he created it. Next, marriage is the most intimate relationship two people can have. The “one flesh” suggests emotional and sexual intimacy as to people become one. God designed for the marriage bed to be pleasurable. Further, marriage is a selfless act. It is the concern and well-being of the other committed person. It is what Paul discussed......

Words: 3279 - Pages: 14

Blacks & Interracial Relationships of Marriage, Dating

...Head, Tom “Interracial Marriage Laws; A Short Timeline History” Web. p/Interracial-Marriage-Laws-History-Timeline.htm This article is an interesting history of regulations regarding interracial relationships and marriages. The United States and its Colonial processors had banned miscegenation centuries ago to prevent mixing of races. In 1667 the first British laws was passed in Maryland to prohibit marriage between Whites and slaves. It also mandated enslavement of any White woman who marries a black man. In 1691 Commonwealth of Virginia bans all interracial marriages and if a White marries a person of color, he or she would be exiled. Maryland soon followed suit. In 1780, Pennsylvania repealed such laws to gradually abolish slavery. in 1843 Massachusetts became second state to repeal miscegenation laws. In 1883, “Pace v. Alabama”, the U.S. Supreme Court unanimously rules that state-level bans on interracial marriage do not violate the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. constitution. The ruling held for more than 80 years. In 1922, Congress passed the Cable Act, which prohibited marriages between Whites and Blacks and Whites and Asians. In 1964, “McLaughlin Vs Florida” Supreme Court rules that bans on interracial marriages violates 14th amendments. Finally in 1976, Loving Vs Virginia, the Supreme Court unanimously overturned “Pace Vs Alabama”. In 2000 Alabama became the last state to lift this ban. Judice, Cheryl...

Words: 2180 - Pages: 9

Gay Marriage

... “What is gay marriage?” Bronner, E. (2012, June 23). Gay marriage gains backer as major foe revises views. The New York Times, pp. 9A. Ethan Bronner exhibits the change of mind of David Blankenhorn, a national figure in the movement against same-sex marriage, about his opposition towards gay marriage and the reactions he received due to that switched thought. Bronner wrote, “I opposed gay marriage believing that children have the right, insofar as society makes it possible, to know and to be cared for by the two parents who brought them into this world,'' referring to Blankenhorn old thoughts where he added to his idea, “Whatever one's definition of marriage, legally recognizing gay and lesbian couples and their children is a victory for basic fairness.'' This meaning that he changed his ideology for the civil rights’ sake of equality. Bronner follows by expressing the response of Rev. Jim Garlow, senior pastor, who contradicts Blankenhorn new opinion along with Peter S. Sprigg. This article contributes demonstrates the power of an open mind. It shows how a person who had a straight definition of what he thought marriage was changed that interpretation with the help of many outside factors. Kottak, C. P. (2012). Mirror for humanity: A concise introduction to cultural anthropology (8th Ed.). New York, NY: McGraw Hill Companies. Conrad Phillip Kottak explains what marriage is in the point of view of anthropologists,...

Words: 1445 - Pages: 6


...Gay marriages should be banned. It should be banned for many reasons. One reason being that it is prohibited in the bible. Another reason it should be banned is because it confuses the minds of small children who don’t understand what it means. Also, being in a gay marriage won’t allow the couple to have kids naturally. Gay marriages should be banned because in my religion gay marriages are prohibited in the bible. In the bible man and man shouldn’t be seen together. God made Adam and Eve to make a family of their own, which is a symbol that man and woman should be together. It would be a hard life for people who are gay and married because they are sinning. In my religion, it’s a sin to be married to the same gender. Being gay and married confuses the minds of small children who don’t understand what it means. They will wonder why they have two moms or two dads. Kids could be judged over their parents decisions of being gay and married. The possibility of being bullied because of having the same gender parents is more than when a child has straight parents. This can cause the child to wonder why they were put in that position. Moreover, the child won’t have both male and female role models like they would need. Being in a gay marriage won’t allow the couple to have their own child with their bride or groom. The same sex are unable to produce a child naturally. They would have to adopt or go through donor insemination if they wanted children. The process......

Words: 373 - Pages: 2

Marriage Relationships

...Marriage Relationships Marriage is one of the oldest institutions in existence within our society. According to Knox and Schacht (2008), traditionally, marriage has been viewed as a legal relationship that binds a man and a woman together for reproduction and the subsequent care (physical/emotional) and socialization of children. – page 10 These several components of what comprises a marriage, including, the legal contract, starting a family, physical and emotional care of the children, as well as the socialization of the children, are all elements requiring much thought and consideration as the outcomes and ramifications of these decisions are far reaching and, oftentimes, life-long, especially for their children. The legal contract, is a binding document indicating that the participating parties, which in most states consists of two people of different sexes who are of legal age, who: will jointly own all property; will equally divide all property in the case of divorce, unless there is a prenuptial agreement stating otherwise; will maintain sexual fidelity, this is implied according to Knox and Schacht (2008), – page 10; and will provide economic resources for each of the spouses. Economic resources include: payment for medical insurance and bills if the partner is insured; Social Security benefits if one partner dies; and receipt of inheritance from the estate if one of the partners dies. Very few states recognize common law marriages. For......

Words: 852 - Pages: 4

Long Distance Relationship and Marriage

...WS, 913558430 SXS/PSY 320, Fall 2013 Long Distance Relationship and Marriage The article “Heartache That Taught Me Long Distance Love Is Always Doomed” is about a British writer who was suffering the pain of the long distance relationship and marriage. She met and fell in love with Mickael who worked at the hotel where she stayed over on her business trip in Nice. They bonded each other after their first time conversation about the books and culture. Later on they started hanging out and felt for each other. However, neither of them dared to admit their feelings. After returning back to her 13 years mysterious marriage, she found out that her feeling for Mickael was stronger and stronger. In spite of 600 miles away, they fell in love each other. They spent their time by sharing their feelings for each other, their rough daily life and interest through Google chat, video chat, text and email. She went back and forth to Nice and London every two months to write her novel and see him. Mickael also took a long weekend off from his job to spend his time with her. At first she was thrilled about counting the days to see him with passionate love. In the meantime, she had to end up living together with her husband due to the long court process after filing for divorce with him. However the relationship with Mickael was closer than the couples who were living together. As the time goes by, although she became more independent than before, she was getting tired of being alone......

Words: 726 - Pages: 3

Marriage, Divorce and Relationship

...Ethics and Morals There are some possible ethical issues for the idea about a survey on children and how their education has been impacted from their parents’ divorce. One possible issue comes from the fact that the children who are participating are under the age of consent and because of this, they cannot give their consent to complete the survey. Their parents would have to give consent and this could become an issue as well because the parents may not want their children to give out information about their separation. The possible harm that could come from the survey is that it may make the children who are participating upset since they will have to think about their parents’ separation. Although confidentiality should not be an issue, with the participants remaining anonymous, the children participating will be revealing very personal information such as when their parents became separated and how their grades changed following the separation. The benefits of the research will be that the research could show if there is a possible link between the separation of parents and the grades their children receive. This could lead to the parents trying to become more active in their children’s education or the children possibly receiving the help they need to feel better about the separation. In order to have the research get approved by the IRB, a consent form has to be created that will be understandable to the parents, who would be the people that would sign it. The risks...

Words: 670 - Pages: 3


...How to have a Healthy Relationship: Marriage and Family A research paper on how to have a healthy relationship 2014 Philippine Women’s University Prepared by: Abu-Aisha, Najeeb Madera, Alyssa Mae P. Resurreccion, Jr. Rodel A. Galang, Isabella How to have a Healthy Relationship: Marriage and Family A research paper on how to have a healthy relationship Contents Introduction p.3 Chapter 1 FAMILY OF ORIGIN IN-LAWS, OUTLAWS AND MOVING ON p.4 Chapter 2 Healthy Relationships/Effective Communication p.5 Chapter 3 DEALING WITH CONFLICT p.12 Conclusion—Marriage is a Good for Society p.14 Bibliography p.15 INTRODUCTION Someone once said that marriage is the riskiest activity taken on by the greatest number of people in our society. In western society half of marriages are expected to end in divorce. This book is a compact, concise and informative guide for couples who want to save or strengthen their marriage and relationship. The content is based on over fifteen years’ experience in relationship counselling and in mental health and social research. It aims to provide psychological and social insights that will enable readers to transform, consolidate and most importantly enjoy their marriage and relationship. There can be no doubt that the core social and personal challenge of our time is how to make loving, permanent marriage work for ourselves and our children. It is the married couple who......

Words: 5490 - Pages: 22

Defining Marriage

...Conjugal versus Revisionist Marriage: The ongoing debate in the U.S. over what constitutes marriage. What is Marriage? Are there qualifiers for what relationships can be classified as marriages? This paper will examine the arguments for defining marriage through the lens of Western Moral Tradition. According to the U.S. Government marriage is define as, §7. Definition of “marriage” and “spouse” In determining the meaning of any Act of Congress, or of any ruling, regulation, or interpretation of the various administrative bureaus and agencies of the United States, the word “marriage” means only a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife, and the word “spouse” refers only to a person of the opposite sex who is a husband or a wife. (Added Pub. L. 104–199, §3(a), Sept. 21, 1996, 110 Stat. 2419.) Where does the official United States Federal definition stem from? The answer to that question is not a single source but a series of teachings handed down from Western society stemming, arguably going back to ancient Greece and ancient Jerusalem. The legal use of marriage is not just for religious purposes but also for tax, property rights, and child rearing. Recently, a cultural divide has invigorated a debate on redefining marriage to include same sex or non-traditional unions as marriages. The debate is largely two sides each defining the specifics of what marriage entails. The first is referred to as conjugal view and the latter is revisionist view.......

Words: 2824 - Pages: 12

Defining Abnormality

...Abnormal Psychology (Task 1 of 2) Assignment 1 – Defining Abnormality 1) Explain statistical infrequency as a means of defining abnormality If a persons thinking or behaviour is statistically unusual or rare then it is classed as abnormal behaviour. 2) Give an example to illustrate how this definition could be used. Mother Teresa is a good example of someone who falls under the category of statistical infrequency. A person who is a millionaire could be classed as abnormal because the number of people in the world that are millionaires is low compared to the rest of the population so being a millionaire is a rare position to be in, and it occurs infrequently. Another example is how anxiety is measured; it is considered that if you score either low or high when measured for levels of anxiety that you are considered as abnormal. You could also say that in Britain that it is understood that most people wash themselves on a daily basis so therefore according to this definition, it is abnormal not to wash on a regular basis, because it is classed as a statistical infrequency. 3) Explain at least two criticisms of this definition First criticism The first criticism of this definition is that it is a bit ambiguous as to how rare does a persons behaviour have to be before it is classed as abnormal behaviour. How rare is too rare. Second criticism This definition doesn’t consider social desirability of the ‘abnormal behaviour’, some statistically......

Words: 1455 - Pages: 6


...CHAPTER 1 THE PROBLEM AND ITS BACKGROUND INTRODUCTION Marriage is one of the deepest and most complex involvements of human relationships. It is a corner stone of society and a very necessary part of the social system. It is a crucial and sacred bond between two personalities merging into one for ideas, attitudes, habits and likes and dislikes. In Philippines marriage is considered a lifelong partnership. It is the foundation stone on which the family is built. Basically marriage is a social and legal contract. People marry great number of reasons- personal or social. Usually they have a certain preconceived notions about the kind of person they would like to marry. The large percentage of separation each year, non-marital pregnancies and premarital cohabitation have all dramatically changed the traditional family structure (Amato, 2003). Millions of children are no longer being raised in nuclear families. The institution of marriage, the backbone of society, appears to be under threat. Marriage has, despite demographic and political shifts, significant value for the individual, families and the society (Nock, 2005). When looking at marriage as an institution, as opposed to a free-standing concept, marriage represents socially sanctioned behavior. Marriage embraces traditionally virtuous, legal and predictable assumptions concerning what is moral and what is proper (Nock, 2005). Through marriage an individual is transformed; they are perceived and treated......

Words: 12231 - Pages: 49

Gay Marriage

...GAY MARRIAGE 1 Gay Marriage In The United States By: Michael White SOC. 120 PJ Rosch April 2, 2012 GAY MARRIAGE 2 America is a place where a person man or woman can be whoever they want to be. America is the only place in the world where freedom reigns everywhere in the country. But, Why is it that two men or women who love each other can not get married?. Here and now people in LGBT community are fighting for equality. They want the same right as people who are considered to be regular americans to get married. Opposing forces such as certain religous groups, and several other organizations are fighting to stop this from happening. There is an easy solution to the problem why not let people be. If America is truly a land of freedom and expression then why is same sex marriage is prohibited. HISTORY Gay Marriage is something that has been going on for centuries all around the world. Same sex marriage existed in places such as China dated as far back as the Ming Dynasty. The relationships consisted of men and women mostly women who entered into contracts with younger men and women in a fancy ceremony. These ceremonies are similar to the modern day wedding between a male and female. The first recorded gay marriage occured during the Roman Empire. This marriage was between an Emperor by the name of Elagabus and slave named Hierocles. This marriage still was not fair because in the eyes of the Roman Law, the slave Hierocles was noted as a female. Various......

Words: 2119 - Pages: 9

Love and Marriage

...“Love and Marriage, Love and Marriage, It’s an institute you cant disparage, Ask the local gentry, and they will say Is elementary Try, try, try to separate the, It’s an illusion. Try, try, try and you will only come To this conclusion.” Married…with Children and its theme song is one of my all time favorite sitcoms. It was on the air for over a decade and is still in syndication. I know that for a fact because I occasionally get a chance to view it at 4AM CST weekdays on WTBS TV station, Atlanta, GA--thanks to cable! Apparently I am not the only one who love this sitcom and I certainly don’t know if it is for the same reason(s); but I love it because it most accurately reflected a “real” married relationship. I love the general disgust that the married couple, Al and Peggy Bundy, have for each other because over they years when you live with someone in such close quarters, there is going to be some likes and dislikes. After a while, it gets to the point where each person can read each other so well, whether good or bad, but at the end of the day, the realization sets in that this is who you chose to marry and accept the bad with the good. However, the key to living with it for The rest of your life together with that person is to tell them exactly how you feel. Peggy nor Al has no problem with that!!! While the show reflected a housewife who wasn’t getting enough attention because the husband worked and...

Words: 655 - Pages: 3