Social Exchange Theory/Friendship

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Unfaithfulness
“Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.”-Richard Bach. We meet many people and start different kinds of relationships during our lives. What is the reason not all of them last? All relationships have give and take although the balance of this exchange is not always equal. When we feel that we give more than we receive that is when we decide to end it. My friendly relationships had a nice start and lasted for a few years but had to end eventually because undesirable and negative aspects outweighed positive ones. I knew this girl for quite some time but we were never friends. It was our mutual friend ‘s party when we were officially introduced to each other. I felt connected to her from the very beginning. Since that day we started spending a lot of time together. We were on the same page almost about any discussion and if we would disagree on a subject one of us always knew when to step back so it doesn’t lead into a fight. I shared all my secrets with her. I felt emotional disclosure with her. Any time of the day I could call her and she was always ready to listen and give her advice of her thoughts. I was very happy to have a friend like that, because it is hard to find one that you feel comfortable telling everything about yourself including secrets. I felt like I was lucky to have a friend that understood me and was always there for me. One of the costs that was hard for me to take was that she used to get jealous every time I hang out with other people. I am a very sociable person and I know a lot of people although it is hard for me to become close friend. That’s why I appreciated the friendship that I had with Mary and I was ready to pay that cost. I felt that was exactly what I deserved until one day I revealed the ugly truth that…...

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